There's not many feelings that can compare to the wave of emotions you're likely to experience upon learning your ex is seeing someone new just a few days or weeks after you broke up.
It's a very painful thought, and one that can turn the strongest men into sobbing wrecks.
Even if you meet someone to whom you think you have no previous connection, a 10-minute conversation almost always reveals that she went to high school with your college roommate, used to be on a volleyball team with that girl from your book club, and had a six-month stand with your favorite barista.
Queers don't tend to expect our dates to come into our lives completely free of prior complication.
What I've noticed, though, is that every person I've heard espouse this worldview was straight.
Queer communities are often small and insular, and once you've found one, you tend to hold on to it for dear life.
It's difficult to meet people you're romantically interested in beyond an already-defined circle, and outside of your city's queer scene, most people you run into are likely to be straight.
But I’m like, no, it’s more complicated because people assume things, and everything’s in the public.”"'Oh, well, we were supposed to meet on the show but now we’re meeting in person,'” he said of meeting the season 21 contestants.
“How do you react to that, because you don’t pursue it the same as you would on the show?