Her close circle of friends might know about her affair, but she really cannot let anyone else, such as colleagues or her family, know.She is alone most of the time and spends it waiting: waiting for her married lover to call, to come meet her, to share some precious time together.But, no matter how much your guy promises to meet with the divorce lawyer, action is a whole other ballgame.In fact, most studies find that of all the married men who promise to leave their wives, only about one in five actually do.2. In the rare event that the guy you are dating chooses to leave his wife, your relationship still doesn't have a strong chance of survival.Perhaps the best advice you can give someone about having a relationship with a married man is telling her not to even start. As my friend Jenna* told me, "You can't help who you fall in love with.
Even as the mistress, you know you’re not the only one. As a result, mistresses are often devastated when a married man leaves his wife — but ends up needing “me time” in the wake of a divorce.Don't begin dating immediately as you need to work through the emotional upheaval of the affair.Let yourself get angry and cry over the break-up just as you would had it been a relationship with a single man. Your best friends likely knew of your involvement with the married man, so let theirs be the shoulders you lean on at this time.Lisa Mooney has been a professional writer for more than 18 years.She has worked with various clients including many Fortune 500 companies such as Pinkerton Inc.If he is serious about leaving her (and be aware he probably isn't), he will do so, but you should not wait around.